Stop The Violence

<body topmargin=0 leftmargin=0 marginheight=0 marginwidth=0><script type="text/javascript" src="http://hb.lycos.com/hb.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://ratings.lycos.com/ratings/lycosRating.js.php"></script> <script type="text/javascript"><![CDATA[//><!]]></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://scripts.lycos.com/catman/init.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-start.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-middle.js"></script> <script type="text/javascript" src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/ad/code-end.js"></script> <noscript> <img src="http://members.tripod.com/adm/img/common/ot_noscript.gif?rand=656654" alt="" width="1" height="1" />  <iframe frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" width="728" height="90" src="http://ad.yieldmanager.com/st?ad_type=iframe&ad_size=728x90&section=209094"></iframe>  </noscript> <table cellpadding=0 cellspacing=0 border=0><tr> <td valign="top" colspan=3 height=85 BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000" bgproperties="fixed" background="04b00d20egerdp.jpg"> <div> <B>MISS KANSAS COED 2002 </b></div> <div> <FONT SIZE="1" COLOR="#0000BF" FACE="Arial" ><B> </b></FONT><B> </b><A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Miss Kansas Coed 2002"><U><B>HOME</b></U></A><B>    |   </b><A HREF="bio_of_miss_kansas.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="BIOGRAPHY"><U><B>BACK</b></U></A></div> </td> </tr><tr> <td valign="top" rowspan="2" width=210 BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000" background="2f2a0a03.jpg"> <div> <IMG SRC="130643e0.gif" border=0 width="100" height="62" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> <div> <TABLE BORDER="0" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="138" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#C0C0C0" BORDERCOLORDARK="#808080" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#000099 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 174 ><NOBR><div> <IMG SRC="0517d8e0.jpg" border=0 width="125" height="142" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></div> <div>  <img src="HTMLobj-462/aniGif.gif" border="0" align="bottom" width="85" height="18">  </div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <div>  <img src="HTMLobj-463/aniGif.gif" border="0" align="bottom" width="68" height="50">  </div> </td> <td valign="top" height=363 colspan=2 BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000" background="2f2a0a03.jpg"> <div> <FONT SIZE="5" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" ><B>Miss Kansas Coed 2002</b></FONT>     |     <A HREF="index.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Miss Kansas Coed 2002"><U>home</U></A>    |  <A HREF="bio_of_miss_kansas.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="BIOGRAPHY"><U>back</U></A></div> <bR> <bR> <div> Stop The Violence</div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <TABLE BORDER="0" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="223" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#C0C0C0" BORDERCOLORDARK="#808080" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#FFFFFF > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 177 ><NOBR><div> <A HREF="stop_the_violence.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="Stop The Violence"><U><IMG SRC="1c5c87b0.gif" border=0 width="200" height="123" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></U></A></div> <bR> <div> <B>Miss Kansas American Coeds'</b></div> <div> <B>Platform for 2002</b></div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <bR> <div> <B>Violence seems to be everywhere for American young people. From grade school bullies to hallway fights to tragic school shootings, you observe or experience violence on a regular basis. And that's just in school-actually one of the safest places for youth! Violence in the community, in homes and in the media invades our lives almost every day. You're no stranger to violence, but you may not know what you can do to prevent it. Violence is like that. It makes us feel frightened and powerless. But there are things young people can do. </b></div> <bR> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">You can choose nonviolent attitudes and actions, and encourage your peers to do the same. </b></div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">You can learn and teach skills to handle anger, solve problems and get along with others. </b></div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">You can recognize warning signs that suggest someone may be headed for violence and take steps to get help for them. </b></div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">You can urge your peers to break the "code of silence" and report troubling behavior, to help keep everyone safe. </b></div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">You can be part of a movement to build student "ownership" of your school and create an atmosphere of zero tolerance for violence and unlimited potential for learning and belonging. </b></div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">You can be part of</b><B> STOP the Violence - Students Taking On Prevention</b><B>. With the right attitudes, skills and resources, you can make your school and neighborhood safer. </b></div> <bR> <div> <B> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="505" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#C0C0C0" BORDERCOLORDARK="#808080" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#C0DCC0 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 148 WIDTH="493"><div> <B>An Unsafe School? </b><I>How do you know?</I><FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#0000FF" FACE="Arial" ><B> </b><A HREF="http://keystosaferschools.com/unsafe_school.htm " TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://keystosaferschools.com/unsafe_sch"><U><U>http://keystosaferschools.com/unsafe_school.htm </U></U></A></FONT></div> <div> Some schools have a problem with violence while others do not. Some schools handle a crisis well while others do not. Read this informative article to learn what characteristics identify an unsafe school. Attitude may be the most important indicator, but there are other, more concrete things that can be identified. The best part is that you are not left in despair. <I>Keys</I> has a <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#0000FF" FACE="Arial" ><A HREF="http://keystosaferschools.com/Request_handouts_response_form.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://keystosaferschools.com/Request_ha"><U><U>checklist</U></U></A></FONT> to follow in developing a safe and responsive school. Use these tools to improve the safety and security of your school. </div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></b></div> <bR> <div> <B> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="504" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#BF0000" BORDERCOLORDARK="#000000" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#FFFF00 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 615 WIDTH="492"><div> <B>SCHOOL VIOLENCE</b></div> <div> The first thing to note is that schools are safe places for children and adults. Statistically, people are safer at school than most other environments they will encounter. Yet, tragic things happen without reason or justification on school grounds across the United States. Why does this happen at some schools and not at others? Are some schools prone to violence by some mystical design or by unintentional actions of Administrations, Parents or Students? What we find is that violence can happen anywhere and the school that is not prepared to manage or handle it is an unsafe school. </div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <B>BE RESPONSIBLE</b></div> <div> <B>In every School Shooting, other kids knew before hand that it was </b></div> <div> <B>going to happen. Why didn't they tell anyone? Some have told. Several schools have been spared deadly violent events because students came forward and told officials about a plot being laid out by a fellow student. This does not just happen.  In general, students live behind an unofficial "wall of silence." Any kid who tells a teacher what another kid is doing may be called a rat, snitch or narc.  </b><I><B>Kids are the Keys</b></I><B>, they are always better informed about what another student may be about to do than the school staff will ever be.  Telling an adult about a potentially violent situation is not "tattle telling" but is acting as a "responsible citizen" of the school and community. </b></div> <bR> <div> <B>Kids are the Keys</b> </div> <div> What do schools in New Bedford, MA and Kissimmee, FL have in common? Potentially violent acts were stopped before they started because students came forward and reported what other students were planning. Schools must do everything possible to help students break through the "wall of silence" and report whenever they hear of such unthinkable plans. </div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 2329 WIDTH="492"><div> <B>Attitude: It can never happen here!</b></div> <bR> <div> This is the most common of all characteristics of the unsafe school. When those who are responsible rest on the premise that their school is so close knit and everyone loves everyone too much to hurt someone else. Because of this belief they fail to prepare and become the unsafe school where you might hear someone say; "I never thought it could happen here!" </div> <bR> <div> <B>An Explosion of Violence</b></div> <div> <B>January 9, 2003:  VANCOUVER, Wash.  </b>A minor was shot in the chin after gunfire erupted at George C. Marshall Elementary School where between 20 and 30 people were playing basketball. Around 10 pm a dispute that started inside overflowed to the parking lot where the shooting started. At least two shots were fired and one struck the student. It is believed that his injuries are not life threatening. Witnesses said the suspects left in separate cars before police arrived. No guns were recovered at the scene. After hours programs have been proven to have a positive effect on reducing crimes rates and acts of violence. It is a shame when one of these programs becomes the scene of such a violent act. </div> <bR> <div> <B>November 1, 2002: </b>While the Police and School Administration were still sorting out the shooting above, 3 students from Snyder High School were gunned down today on their lunch break. It appears that a fight started on school grounds then spilled over to the street as students left for lunch. During the fight, one boy entered a building and returned with a 9mm handgun. He fired several shots into the crowd leaving 3 students wounded. Police have a 18 year old male in custody who was not a student and are still searching for a 17 year old student. Parents, students and officials are having difficulty coming to grips with the recent shootings.</div> <bR> <div> <B>October 31, 2002 Tulsa, OK:  </b>Details remain sketchy as the investigation continues into the shooting of a Tulsa high school student by a Security Guard. Early indications are that an armed Security Guard was attempting to shoot another student who may have had a weapon; however, he missed his intended target and accidentally shot another student across the street. The bullet apparently struck that student’s mobile phone sending fragments into his face but not penetrating his body. </div> <bR> <div> <B>October 29, 2002 JERSEY CITY, N.J</b>.:  <B>A student was shot and wounded inside a high school shortly after classes started Tuesday and a suspect was arrested nearby.</b> The boy was fired on once by a male who then left the <B>Lincoln High School </b>building, according to Stan Eason, a spokesman for Mayor Glenn Cunningham. Classes remained in session. </div> <bR> <div> <B>October 28, 2002:  </b><B>Tucson, AZ. </b>A failing student entered his classroom today at the University of Arizona School of Nursing and opened fire. When the shooting was over, four lay dead. They included the gunman, two professors and a fellow student. This comes just a week after a similar shooting in a university classroom in Melbourne, Australia. </div> <div> <B> </b></div> <div> <B>March 7, 2001</b>: <B>WILLIAMSPORT, Pennsylvania</b> -- An eighth-grade girl has been arrested after a shooting at a Bishop Neumann Junior-Senior High School, a Roman Catholic school in Williamsport, Pennsylvania that left another 8<FONT SIZE="1" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" >th</FONT> grade girl wounded. She says that the shooting was due to repeated teasing.</div> <bR> <div> <B>May 11, 2000: </b>A seventh-grade student who left the Prairie Grove Junior High school <B>Prairie Grove, Arkansas</b> in an apparent fit of rage and a police officer were injured Thursday after shooting each other in an altercation in a hay field north of the student's school<B>. </b></div> <bR> <div> <B>February 29, 2000: </b>6-year-old Kayla Rolland shot dead at Buell Elementary School near Flint, Mich. The assailant is identified as a 6-year-old boy with a .32-caliber handgun. <B>Mount Morris Township, Mich. </b></div> <bR> <div> <B>Dec. 6, 1999: </b>A 13-year-old student in <B>Fort Gibson, Okla.,</b> allegedly arrived at school and opened fire with his father's 9 mm semiautomatic handgun. There were no life-threatening injuries but five of his classmates were injured, four from gunshot wounds and a fifth who suffered bruises in the chaos. </div> <bR> <div> <B>Nov. 19, 1999: </b>A 12-year-old boy allegedly shot and killed a female classmate at the end of lunch hour outside a middle school in <B>Deming, N.M.</b>, about 33 miles from the Mexican border. The boy was wearing a camouflage jacket when he allegedly fired the single shot from a .22-caliber handgun.</div> <bR> <div> <B>April 20, 1999: </b>Two young men wearing long, black trench coats opened fire in a suburban high school <B>in Littleton, Colo.,</b> injuring as many as 20 students. In all, 15 were killed, including the two gunmen.</div> <bR> <div> <B>June 15, 1998: </b>A male teacher and a female guidance counselor are shot in a hallway at a <B>Richmond, Va.</b>, high school. The man suffers an injury to the abdomen that wasn’t life threatening; the woman is reportedly grazed. </div> <bR> <div> <B>May 21, 1998:</b>15-year-old boy shot six classmates at Heritage High School in <B>Conyers, Georgia</b> a suburban of Atlanta. He used weapons he stole from a locked gun cabinet in his home. </div> <bR> <div> <B>May 21, 1998: </b>A 15-year-old student in <B>Springfield, Ore.</b>, expelled the day before for bringing a gun to school, allegedly opens fire in the school cafeteria. Two students are killed. The suspect’s parents are later found shot dead in their home. </div> <bR> <div> <B>May 21, 1998: </b>Three sixth-grade boys had a “hit list” and were plotting to kill fellow classmates on the last day of school in a sniper attack during a false fire alarm, police in <B>St. Charles, Mo.</b>, say.</div> <bR> <div> <B>May 21, 1998: </b>A 15-year-old boy dies from a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head in <B>Onalaska, Wash</b>. Earlier in the day, the boy boarded a high school bus with a gun in hand, ordered his girlfriend off the bus and took her to his home, where he shot himself. </div> <bR> <div> <B>May 21, 1998: </b>A 15-year-old girl is shot and wounded at a suburban <B>Houston</b> high school when a gun in the backpack of a 17-year-old classmate goes off in a biology class. The boy is charged with a third-degree felony for taking a gun to school. </div> <bR> <div> <B>May 19, 1998: </b>Two boys are suspended from school in <B>Johnston, R.I.</b>, after being accused of writing and handing out threatening notes to classmates. The notes said things such as, “All your friends are dead.” The boys are ordered to remain out of school until they have been evaluated to determine whether they are dangerous. </div> <bR> <div> <B>May 19, 1998: </b>Three days before his graduation, an 18-year-old honor student allegedly opens fire in a parking lot at Lincoln County High School in <B>Fayetteville, Tenn.</b>, killing a classmate who was dating his ex-girlfriend.</div> <bR> <div> <B>April 28, 1998: </b>Two teenage boys are shot to death and a third is wounded as they played basketball at a <B>Pomona, Calif.</b>, elementary school hours after classes had ended. A 14-year-old boy is charged; the shooting is blamed on rivalry between two groups of youths.</div> <bR> <div> <B>April 24, 1998 : </b>A 48-year-old science teacher is shot to death in front of students at graduation dance in <B>Edinboro, Pa.</b> A 14-year-old student at James W. Parker Middle School is charged. </div> <bR> <div> <B>March 24, 1998: </b>Four girls and a teacher are shot to death and 10 others wounded during a false fire alarm at Westside Middle School in <B>Jonesboro, Ark.,</b> when two boys, ages 11 and 13, open fire from the woods. Both are convicted in juvenile court of murder and can be held up to age 21. </div> <bR> <div> <B>Dec. 15, 1997: Stamps, Arkansas</b> - An AR eighth grader was arrested and charged as an adult after he confessed to shooting and wounded two of his fellow students as he hid in the woods outside of a high school. </div> <bR> <div> <B>Dec. 1, 1997: </b>Three students are killed and five others wounded while they take part in a prayer circle in a hallway at Heath High School in <B>West Paducah, Ky.</b> A 14-year-old student pleads guilty but mentally ill to murder and is serving life in prison. One of the wounded girls is left paralyzed.</div> <bR> <div> <B>Oct. 1, 1997: </b>A 16-year-old outcast in <B>Pearl, Miss.</b>, is accused of killing his mother, then going to Pearl High School and shooting nine students. Two of them die, including the suspect's ex-girlfriend. The 16-year-old is sentenced to life in prison. Two others await trial on accessory charges. </div> <bR> <div> <B>Feb. 19, 1997: </b>A 16-year-old student opens fire with a shotgun in a common area at the <B>Bethel, Alaska</b>, high school, killing the principal and a student. Two other students are wounded. Authorities later accuse two other students of knowing the shootings would take place. Evan Ramsey was sentenced to two 99-year terms. </div> <bR> <div> <B>Feb. 2, 1996: </b>A 14-year-old boy wearing a trench coat walks into algebra class with a hunting rifle and allegedly opens fire, killing the teacher and two students. A third student is injured during the shooting at a junior high school in <B>Moses Lake, Wash. </b></div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></b></div> <DIV ALIGN="LEFT"></DIV> <div> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="503" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#BF0000" BORDERCOLORDARK="#BF0000" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#FFFBF0 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 300 WIDTH="491"><div> <B>Tip of the Month: </b><FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" ><B>Don't take your stress to school.</b></FONT></div> <div> Life brings stress. Sometimes more than we need. When we take our stress to work with us, we bring a load of things that may overwhelm us, our fellow workers or our students. To relieve your stress try...</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">60 seconds of peace. Sit quietly for one minute and sip hot tea.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Develop and recite a positive daily affirmation.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Find a hobby. But do not let it become a source of stress.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Find a contrasting stress activity. If you read for your work, do not read for relaxation. If you work with your hands, do not use a relaxation that requires you to work with your hands.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Learn to take a short vacation while on the job. Close your eyes, think of something pleasant, breathe deeply and slowly, then get back to work. NOTE: This should only be few seconds.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Power nap. If logistics of your work place permit it, take 5 minutes or less for a quick nap.</div> <div> No matter what your technique, controlling your stress will enhance your ability to manage stressful situations. </div> <bR> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 191 WIDTH="491"><div> <B>Tip of the Month:</b><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" ><B> Avoiding Power Struggles</b></FONT></div> <div> Parents and teachers often find themselves arguing with their children. These arguments are power struggles for control. To enter into them, is to surrender control. Here are some hints for avoiding Power Struggles:</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Stay goal focused. (<I>Winning an argument should not be the goal</I>.) </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Defer to established rules. (<I>See</I> <I>the importance in set rules before the infraction</I>) </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Avoid reacting out of anger. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Be consistent.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 325 WIDTH="491"><div> <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#FF0000" FACE="Arial" ><B>Tip of the Month:</b></FONT><FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#0000FF" FACE="Arial" ><B> </b></FONT><B>How to De-escalate an Argument</b> </div> <div> <B>Anger</b> is a natural emotion. There is nothing good nor bad about it. However, when anger is allowed to go unchecked and erupt into violent behavior it can present a tremendous problem for a teacher or parent. The secret for managing anger is to understand the process that escalating anger goes through and learning techniques to redirect that process into more productive actions. It is unfortunate, but true that almost everything we do naturally to control someone else's anger is actually counter-productive. </div> <div> <B>How to De-escalate an Argument</b> </div> <bR> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Speak with authority, but don't yell.</b> Trying to out shout them will only make things louder. </div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Tell them what you want. </b>"I want you to stop talking and go to your seats." </div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Defer to rules. </b>"You know what the handbook says about fighting."</div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Avoid Power Struggles. </b>Showing student respect and giving as much power and control as feasible through guided-choices and responsibility for the students own behavior.<FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" > </FONT></div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 133 ><NOBR><div> <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#FF0000" FACE="Arial" ><B>Tip of the Month:</b></FONT> <B>How to be Prepared</b></div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"> Agree that it can happen at your school</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"> Decide to be prepared</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"> Assemble a Crisis Team Train and Certify Staff</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"> Enlist the support of students and parents</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"> Practice, practice, practice</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 96 ><NOBR><div> <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#FF0000" FACE="Arial" ><B>Tip of the Month:</b></FONT> <B>How to be Prepared</b></div> <bR> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Plan (Publish a detailed plan of action. Get outside help.) </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Train (Insure that every staff member knows his/her role.) </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Attack (Try your plan to find gaps and vulnerabilities.)</div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 200 WIDTH="491"><div> <B>Tip of the Month: </b><FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" ><B>Bullying or Teasing?</b></FONT></div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"> It is Teasing only if both parties know it is teasing.<FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" > </FONT></div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Teasing is not about Power, Ridicule or Control.<FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" > </FONT></div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Teasing does not involve Pain (physical or emotional).</div> <bR> <div> Otherwise it is bullying and should not be accepted by the parents, school or the students.</div> <bR> <div> *Did you know that Bullying is perhaps the single most common element in school violence events? Report after report lists up to 75% of all students as current or former victims of bullying. Increasingly, we are seeing bullying at school not limited to the students. </div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 129 WIDTH="491"><div> <FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#FF0000" FACE="Arial" ><B>Tip of the Month:</b></FONT><FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#0000FF" FACE="Arial" ><B> </b></FONT><B>How to Search for a Weapon</b> </div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Don't. </b>Without law enforcement training of disarming a suspect, you will place yourself or others at risk. </div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Report</b> any suspected weapons to your <B>SRO</b> (<I>School Resource Officer</I>) or local police. </div> <div> <B><IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700f000000000.gif" HEIGHT="16" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Intervene</b> (if untrained) only when there is a direct and imminent threat to self or others.</div> </tD> </tR> <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 488 WIDTH="491"><div> <B>Tip of the Month: </b><FONT SIZE="2" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" ><B>Responding to a Bomb Threat with a Passive Search</b></FONT></div> <bR> <div> The bomb threat caller is the best source of information about the bomb. Utilizing an approved checklist which is by all phones is the best way to remember what was said. When a bomb threat is called in:</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Keep the caller on the line as long as possible. Ask him/her to repeat the message. Record every word spoken by the person on an approved checklist. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">If the caller does not indicate the location of the bomb or the time of possible detonation, ask him/her for this information. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Ask caller for his/her name (<I>at times they will accidentally give it to you.</I>) Then check caller ID (<I>if not in place, obtain it!</I>) </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Inform the caller that the building is occupied and the detonation of a bomb could result in death or serious injury to many innocent people. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Pay particular attention to background noises, such as motors running, music playing, and any other noise which may give a clue as to the location of the caller. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Listen closely to the voice (male, female), voice quality (calm, excited), accents, and speech impediments. Immediately after the caller hangs up, report the threat to the person designated by management to receive such information . </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Report the information immediately to the police department, fire department, ATF, FBI, and other appropriate agencies. Normally, one call to 911 will effect all of these. The sequence of notification should be established in the bomb incident plan. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Remain available, as law enforcement personnel will want to interview you. </div> <bR> <div> If the bomb threat is written, avoid any unnecessary handling of the note or letter including the envelope. Report it as in #6 above. </div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <bR> <div> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="421" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#0000BF" BORDERCOLORDARK="#FF0000" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#FFFF00 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 55 ><NOBR><div> <B>FAST FACTS</b></div> <div> <B>77% of violent deaths in school are caused by firearms (AACAP).</b></div> <div> <B>Nearly a million U.S. students take guns to school each year.</b></div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <bR> <div> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="502" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#FF0000" BORDERCOLORDARK="#BF0000" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#C0DCC0 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 395 WIDTH="490"><div> <B>Youth Violence Facts</b> </div> <bR> <div> Young people experience the highest rates of violent crime of any age group.</div> <div> (U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics) </div> <div> Youth violence happens in all kinds and sizes of communities. In the U.S., the rate of juvenile crime increases when the size of the community decreases.</div> <div> (Crime in the United States, U.S. Department of Justice, Federal Bureau of Investigation) </div> <div> Most of the time,violence is not planned in advance. Most violence starts with an argument over something "small" and can escalate into an assault and, in extreme cases, even murder.</div> <div> (Youth Violence: Lessons from the Experts, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Public Health Service) </div> <div> Youth violence grows out of conflicts over: </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">unmet needs for belonging, power,freedom and fun; </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">limited resources (time, money, property); </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Wing0a73006e00c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">difficulties accepting differences (beliefs, prioities, principles). </div> <div> (Conflict Resolution Education, U.S. Department of Justice, Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention) </div> <div> There are warning signs and situations that suggest a young person may become violent. It has been found that peers often are the mostly likely group to know in advance about potential schoolviolence.</div> <div> (Early Warning, Timely Response, U.S. Department of Justice and U.S. Department of Education) </div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <bR> <div> <B> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="505" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#BF0000" BORDERCOLORDARK="#000000" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#66CCCC > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 369 WIDTH="493"><div> 1999 V<FONT SIZE="4" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" >iolence </FONT>F<FONT SIZE="4" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" >act</FONT><FONT SIZE="3" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" > </FONT>S<FONT SIZE="4" COLOR="#000000" FACE="Arial" >heet</FONT></div> <div> <B>American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry</b></div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">In 1996, the National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect reported 969,018 cases of violent crimes committed against children </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">In 1996-97, 10 percent of all public schools reported at least one serious violent crime to police or law enforcement (Bureau of Justice Statistics and Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, U.S. Department of Justice). </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Gunshot wounds to children ages 16 and under have increased 300 percent in major urban areas since 1986. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">According to FBI reports, 2,900 juveniles were arrested for murder in 1996. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Estimates indicate that as many as 5,000 children die each year as a result of mistreatment and abuse from parents or guardians. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Everyday in America 16 children and youths are killed by firearms (Children's Defense Fund, 1998). </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Nearly a million U.S. students took guns to school during 1998 (Parents Resource Institute for Drug Education). </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Each year 123,400 children are arrested for violent crimes in the U.S. (Office of Juvenile Justice and Juvenile Delinquency Prevention, 1997).</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Persons under age 25 make up nearly 50 percent of all victims of a serious violent</div> <div>               crime (The Institute for Youth Development, 1998).</div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></b></div> <bR> <div> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="501" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#000000" BORDERCOLORDARK="#000000" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#FFCC33 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 114 WIDTH="489"><div> <B>FAST FACTS</b></div> <bR> <div> "<I>Studies show that as many as 58% of students say they have skipped school once or more because they were afraid of being picked on at school by a bully". - A.E. Hunt</I></div> <bR> <div> <I><B>Most bullying occurs on school parking lots, in lunchrooms,</b></I></div> <div> <I><B>and bathrooms, on school buses or in unsupervised halls.</b></I></div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <bR> <div> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="502" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#000000" BORDERCOLORDARK="#000000" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#99CC66 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 521 WIDTH="490"><bR> <div> <B>Bullying </b>is a common experience for many children and adolescents. Surveys indicate that as many as half of all children are bullied at some time during their school years, and at least 10% are bullied on a regular basis. <B>What is bullying? </b> It can range from name-calling to physical assault, shoving, kicking, taunting and teasing.  If a teen today makes a choice to stand up against his peer group, he may have to face ridicule, bullying, or even physical blows.</div> <bR> <div> <B>Bullying</b> has become an international epidemic. In Europe, bullying has become such a problem that they convened a multi-national conference on the topic. In our schools, bullying has been linked to almost every school shooting in recent years. The tendency in the past was to say that bullying is a normal part of growing up and kids, especially boys have to establish their own "pecking order." If anyone ever complained, they received such advise as, "Work it out yourself." or "What did you do to cause him to hit you?" or worse "I am sure he was only teasing. You need to be a little tougher and not so sensitive." Bullying is far more than teasing and the answer is far more complicated than learning to stand up for yourself.</div> <bR> <div> Children who are bullied experience real suffering that can interfere with their social and emotional development, as well as their school performance. Some victims of bullying have even attempted suicide rather than continue to endure such harassment and punishment.</div> <bR> <div> <B>What Should I Do if I am a victim of bullying?</b></div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Seek help from your teacher, coach, other adult or the school guidance counselor. </div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Try walking away to avoid the bully instead of fighting back.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Being assertive, insist that the bully leave you alone (This may have a surprising effect).</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Remember that the bully's true goal is to get a response.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Stick with your friends when traveling back and forth from school, during shopping trips, or on other outings.</div> <div> <IMG BORDER="0" SRC="Symb075c00b700c800000000.gif" HEIGHT="13" WIDTH="24" ALIGN="bottom" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0">Bullies are less likely to pick on a you if you are in a group. </div> </tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <bR> <div> <A HREF="http://keystosaferschools.com/LOVECampaign.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://keystosaferschools.com/LOVECampai"><U><IMG SRC="1c6de9e0.gif" border=0 width="222" height="158" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></U></A></div> <bR> <div> <A HREF="http://keystosaferschools.com/LOVECampaign.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://keystosaferschools.com/LOVECampai"><U><IMG SRC="1c947570.gif" border=0 width="327" height="87" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></U></A></div> <bR> <div> <A HREF="http://keystosaferschools.com/" TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://keystosaferschools.com/"><U><B>http://keystosaferschools.com/</b></U></A></div> <bR> <div> <A HREF="http://keystosaferschools.com/LOVECampaign.htm" TARGET="_top" TITLE="http://keystosaferschools.com/LOVECampai"><U><B><IMG SRC="1d3286d0.gif" border=0 width="296" height="109" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0"></b></U></A></div> <bR> <div> <TABLE BORDER="2" CELLPADDING="2" CELLSPACING="1" WIDTH="547" BORDERCOLORLIGHT="#000000" BORDERCOLORDARK="#000000" FRAME="BOX" RULES="ALL" ALIGN="BOTTOM" HSPACE="0" VSPACE="0" BGCOLOR=#C0C0C0 > <tR> <tD VALIGN=TOP HEIGHT= 34 ><NOBR><div> <B>"</b><I><B>It is OK to be </b></I><I><B><U>follower</U></b></I><I><B>, as long as you know where you are being </b></I><I><B><U>led</U></b></I><I><B>."</b></I></div> <div> <B>Provided by</b>: Mike Nelson, MS, LPC, NCC - <I>Director at Keys To Safer Schools.com</I></div> </NOBR></tD> </tR> </TABLE></div> <bR> </td> </tr><tr> <td valign="top" colspan=2 height=32 BGCOLOR="#FFFFFF" TEXT="#080000" background="1d20a0a3.gif"> <bR> </td> </tr></table></body>